Ephesians 5:25-26 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word.
I am puzzeled by Christian feminists who choose to ignore the parts of God’s Word that discuss the consequences of Eve’s sin, and how they relate to a woman’s life: First that she would experience pain in the delivery of her children, and second, that she would be “under” the authority of her husband her whole life. Egalitarians have conveniently made men and women to be the same, brushing away the consequences of sin on humanity, and thereby dismissing some of God’s Word, especially the parts that are hard to understand, assuming God is just and good. I’ll be the first to admit, it’s difficult to believe that in God’s eyes, men and women re equal when the Word say “wives, submit to your husbands.” Actually, we are all (both men and women) commanded to submit to each other, for Christ is head of all. Scripturally speaking, I get that I have “headship” over my wife in God’s eyes, but I’ve also grown to learn and understand that I play a crucial part in helping my wife to experience blessing and prosperity in my headship. My part is to die to self. Authority “over” my wife means being willing to die for her, that she would be both protected and provided for. What Jesus did for the church is my model and example. Headship is much more about selflessness, caring for my wife’s spiritual growth, and playing an important role in treating her in a way that she prospers in God. This is an incredible responsibility, not a trump card to play when I want to get what I want. The Word of God, and a lifestyle submitted to God, is my source of wisdom and strength; literally I think Paul admonishes all men to both walk in The Word, and to speak The Word into their wives, living in relationship as Christ lived in relationship with the church. This is headship; this is authority; Words that soften and bless her heart, that she may prosper in all things.
Thank you Jesus for my wife. Thank you for making me one flesh with her. Thank you for giving me a healthy and biblical perspective about how to best serve and love her.